The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts
Posted by admin | Posted in Philosophy | Posted on 08-08-2010
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Product Description
Are you and your spouse speaking the same language? While love is a many splendored thing, it is sometimes a very confusing thing, too. And as people come in all varieties, shapes, and sizes, so do their choices of personal expressions of love. But more often than not, the giver and the receiver express love in two different ways. This can lead to misunderstanding, quarrels, and even divorce. Quality Time Words of Affirmation Gifts Acts of Service Physical Touch Dr. Gary Chapman identifies five basic languages of love and then guides couples towards a better understanding of their unique languages of love. Learn to speak and understand your mate’s love language, and in no time you will be able to effectively love and truly feel loved in return. Skillful communication is within your grasp!Amazon.com Review
Unhappiness in marriage often has a simple root cause: we speak different love languages, believes Dr. Gary Chapman. While working as a marriage counselor for more than 30 years, he identified five love languages: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch. In a friendly, often humorous style, he unpacks each one. Some husbands or wives may crave focused attention; another needs regular praise. Gifts are highly important to one spouse, while another sees fixing a leaky faucet, ironing a shirt, or cooking a meal as filling their “love tank.” Some partners might find physical touch makes them feel valued: holding hands, giving back rubs, and sexual contact. Chapman illustrates each love language with real-life examples from his counseling practice.
How do you discover your spouse’s – and your own – love language? Chapman’s short questionnaires are one of several ways to find out. Throughout the book, he also includes application questions that can be answered more extensively in the beautifully detailed companion leather journal (an exclusive Amazon.com set). Each section of the journal corresponds with a chapter from the book, offering opportunities for deeper reflection on your marriage.
Although some readers may find choosing to love a spouse that they no longer even like –hoping the feelings of affection will follow later– a difficult concept to swallow, Chapman promises that the results will be worth the effort. “Love is a choice,” says Chapman. “And either partner can start the process today.” –Cindy Crosby. This text refers to the Amazon.com Exclusive Journal & Paperback Book Set.
The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts
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Is this supposed to be a “Christian” book? The bible clearly defines marriage roles: Christ is the head of the husband, the husband is the head of the wife, and the wife is to submit to her husband. If every couple did this, there would be no divorce. It doesn’t matter which love language you speak, if you are in rebellion to the Lord and refuse to take the role you were created to fulfill, you will not have a happy marriage. This is a scary book that will put band aids on a lot of miserable situations. If you want to know how to fix your marriage, read the book of Ephesians. Stop being so emotional and take some responsibility for yourself!
Rating: 1 / 5
I’ll make this short and sweet. Before I read this travesty, I was generally pretty happy with my love life. I had had several good relationships with women, but then I read this and followed it’s advice, and I have barely talked to a woman since. Avoid this like AIDS.
Rating: 1 / 5
Marriage is an institution that reflected the economy of an agrarian nation. Single family farms do not exist in suburbia. Trying to cram yourselves into an arrangement that was created to have many children to help with the endless physical work needed to survive is making the USA c r a z y and idiots like Ophra and Dr. Phil filthy rich selling how to make it work!
Rating: 1 / 5
This book is an interesting but indirect approach to improving love between couples. Its philosphy of using improved love to improve lovemaking has real merit. I know that when I feel closer to my husband the sex is always better. But there are alot of non-emotional, technique-oriented factors that can contribute a LOT to having great sex, and this book doesn’t go into that with any meaningful contributions. If you are wanting something of that ilk, you’d do well with the book “9 Free Secrets of New Sensual Power” or the DVD “New Free Sex” by Clint Arthur, or if you really feel like being nice to yourself, have them send you “Goddess Worship” and have your guy follow along with the guy in the video. After that it will be you Expressing!
Rating: 4 / 5
Nothing more than antidotal information collected through connections with the extremely religious! I’ve encountered people who have read the book using laughable phrases such as “my love tank is full”. If you really want to understand communication styles stick with people who have done the research and have the credentials. Deborah Tannen has written several well-researched books that are helpful in improving communication in interpersonal relationships.
Rating: 1 / 5