There Is No Me Without You: One Woman’s Odyssey to Rescue Her Country’s Children
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Two-time National Book Award nominee Melissa Fay Greene puts a human face on the African AIDS crisis with this powerful story of one woman working to save her country’s children. After losing her husband and daughter, Haregewoin Teferra, an Ethiopian woman of modest means, opened her home to some of the thousands of children in Addis Ababa who have been left as orphans. There Is No Me Without You is the story of how Haregewoin transformed her home into an orphanage and day-care center and began facilitating adoptions to homes all over the world, written by a star of literary nonfiction who is herself an adoptive parent. At heart, it is a book about children and parents, wherever they may be, however they may find each other. Winner of Elle magazine’s 2006 readers’ award in nonfiction.
Melissa Fay Greene is the author of Praying for Sheetrock, The Temple Bombing, and Last Man Out. Two of her books have been finalists for the National Book Award. She has written for The New Yorker, the Washington Post, the New York Times Magazine, Atlantic Monthly, Good Housekeeping, Newsweek, Life, Reader’s Digest, Redbook, Salon, and others. She and her husband, Don Samuel, have seven children, including two adopted from Ethiopia, and are in the process of adopting two more. She lives in Atlanta.
A Chicago Tribune Best Book
An American Library Association Notable Book of the Year
A Booksense Notable Book
A Christian Science Monitor Best Book
A Lukas Prize Finalist
When Haregwoin Teferra’s husband and twenty-three-year-old daughter died within a few years of each other, her middle-class life in Addis Ababa, Ethiopia, was shattered. Bereft and with little to live for, Haregwoin became a recluse. Her self-imposed exile to a hut near her daughter’s grave was interrupted when a priest delivered first one, then another, orphaned teenager into her care. To everyone’s surprise, the children thrived, and so did Haregwoin. As word spread, children of all ages began to appear at her modest home: an infant brought by a dying mother, an orphaned brother and sister whose grandfather was too poor to feed them, a baby left on her doorstep. Haregwoin’s small compound became known as the rare place where ailing parents and impoverished families could safely leave their children. Soon Haregwoin was caring for sixty children, running an unofficial orphanage and day school, and learning first-hand about her country’s and her continent’s greatest challenge: the AIDS pandemic that is leaving millions of children without parents to care for them.
Melissa Fay Greene gets to the heart of the AIDS crisis. The story of Haregwoin and her children: a story of struggle and despair, but also of the triumph of saved lives, and the renewed happiness of children welcomed by adoptive parents in Ethiopia, America, and around the world.
Melissa Fay Greene gets to the heart of the AIDS crisis. The story of Haregwoin and her children: a story of struggle and despair, but also of the triumph of saved lives, and the renewed happiness of children welcomed by adoptive parents in Ethiopia, America, and around the world.
“Greene ably dons the mantle of historian, recounting Ethiopian history; and that of the science writer, exploring the origins of the AIDS virus; and of the social commentator, taking to task the drug companies and Western politicians who should have done more much sooner to help avert disaster. She writes simply and declaratively but also cleverly.”Bill Eichenberger, The Columbus Dispatch
The tragedy of AIDS in Ethiopia comes into sharp focus in Melissa Fay Greene’s powerful new book, There Is No Me Without You. Greene, who lives with her family in Atlanta, tackles the terrifying truth that in 2005, Ethiopia counted among its population 1.5 million AIDS orphans. Officials estimate some 12 million children have been orphaned by HIV/AIDS in all of sub-Saharan Africa . . . Greene shares the courageous yet complex story of Haregewoin Teferra, a foster-care provider in Addis Ababa. This woman on the frontlines, Greene writes, was an ordinary citizen, a middle-class, middle-aged woman, who suddenly found herself toe-to-toe with the worst epidemic in history.’”Robin Michaelson, Atlanta Journal-Constitution
Like the very best literature, There Is No Me Without You charts the human condition in all its extremespassion and cruelty, greed and courage through the narrative arc of an ordinary person thrust into a vortex. In this tale, the vortex is a viral plague, wrongly blamed on sex, inadvertently spread by a tool invented to eradicate disease and prolonged by an industry that chose to let people suffer and die because it would not risk its profit margins . . . This book is an extraordinary portrait of this exemplary woman.”B.T. SHAW, San Diego Union-Tribune
“If Greene did not have such lovely (and true) stories to share, the heartwrenching facts about Africa’s AIDS orphans outlined in this book would be more than the average reader could bear. The stark truth, Greene reminds us, is that ‘for most of Africa’s ten million, fifteen million, twenty million orphans, no one is getting a room ready. No one will come.’ This is an extremely grim topic somehow shaped into a truly inspiring book. There Is No Me Without You is the story of an unlikely heroine, a squat, bossy, middle-class Ethiopian woman who paid little heed to the AIDS crisis threatening her country until it took the life of her daughter . . . Greene is a fine writer, a two-time National Book Award nominee, and There is No Me Without You is the happy occasion of wonderful and weighty material meeting a gifted narrator . . . Greene very effectively portrays a woman whose character blends great generosity with unthinking arrogance, an ordinary woman pushed into heroism by the demands of her time and situation. The book also offers heartwrenching portraits of innocent young lives in wretched distress. The description of small children wailing hopelessly for their missing parents (and this is something Haregwoin faced daily) is beyond devastating. But there is a rich reward for readersand Haregwoinas a few of the cases that seem most hopeless meet with breathtakingly happy endings. For anyone concerned about children’s issues, anyone who has ever considered international adoption, or those of us who simply like to believe that one individual can shine a healing light in the dark, this is a story not to be missed.”Marjorie Kehe, The Christian Science Monitor
“Greene’s book is important because she swings skillfully from the microstory in Teferra’s compound to the global story of AIDS, tucking in a lucid skim of Ethiopian history and plenty of data from the ’speakathons’ of international AIDS conferences . . . The book concludes with a unique adoption, told in an unexpected sequence of remarkable beauty and power. It answers some key questions, and left me gasping.”Karen Long, The Plain Dealer (Cleveland)
“In 2000, journalist Melissa Fay Greene read about the African AIDS pandemic in The New York Times: 12 million orphans in sub-Saharan Africa already and 25 million to 50 million predicted by 2010. The ‘ridiculous’ numbers, according to Greene, raised a question she couldn’t get out of her heada question that eventually led to her book, There Is No Me Without You: ‘Who was going to raise 12 million children?’ Related questions make up one of the most poignant and poetic passages in a harrowing, beautiful book. . . . Greene ably dons the mantle of historian, recounting Ethiopian history; and that of the science writer, exploring the origins of the AIDS virus; and of the social commentator, taking to task the drug companies and Western politicians who should have done more much sooner to help avert disaster. She writes simply and declaratively but also cleverly.”Bill Eichenberger, The Columbus Dispatch
“The horrific numbers behind the AIDS pandemic in Africa, ‘the most terrible epidemic in human history,’ have little resonance for most people in the West: ‘the ridiculous numbers wash over most of us.’ But this searing account humanizes the statistics through heartbreaking, intimate stories of what it is like for young orphans left alone in Ethiopia. Greene’s story focuses on one rescuer, Haregewoin Teferra, who has opened her home and compound in a rickety hillside neighborhood of Addis Ababa and taken in hundreds of the untouchables thrown in the streets and left at her door. She cannot turn them away. Yes, the comparisons with Mother Teresa are there, but this is no hagiography; the middle-aged Teferra is ‘just an average person with a little more heart.’ Greene tells the stories in unforgettable vignettes of loss, secrecy, panic, stigma, and, sometimes, hope, even as she documents the big picture of ‘the human landslide,’ the history and science of epidemiology and transmission, and expresses her fury at the ‘crimes against humanity’ of the multinational drug companies whose expensive patents have denied millions access to the life-saving medicines. Just as moving are the personal stories of international adoptions in the U. S., including two Ethiopian children taken into Greene’s own Atlanta family. The detail of one lost child at a time, who finds love, laughter, comfort, and connection, opens up the universal meaning of family.”Hazel Rochman, Booklist
“Not unlike the AIDS pandemic itself, the odyssey of Haregewoin Teferra, who took in AIDS orphans, began in small stages and grew to irrevocably transform her life from that of ‘a nice…
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This is a fascinating account of a Rowandan widow who finds new meaning in her life caring for the orphans of AIDS, and later for infected children as well. Intersting is the weaving of Rowanda’s political history amongst this widow’s story.
Rating: 5 / 5
I like what the story is about, however the book has so much detail it is hard to get through the first chapters.
Rating: 3 / 5
This mind-boggling fact, along with many others equally illuminating, has been compiled and packaged readably within the primary story, that of Haregewoin Teferra, who, in the midst of despair as an Ethiopian widow mourning the death of a daughter from AIDS, agreed to take in children orphaned by HIV/AIDS and other diseases that are statistically over-represented among the poor. The tales of the mothers and fathers who perished and those of the children they left behind are heartbreaking. But through the selflessness of Ms. Teferra, and others, the children are given sustenance, shelter, love, and hope. Her care-giving operation has not been without controversy, yet she presses on. Foreign families have adopted two hundred and fifty of “her” children. Inside the story of “One woman’s odyssey to rescue Africa’s children,” the author seamlessly incorporates information on the theories behind HIV/AIDS’s progression from a rare ailment to a pandemic (including the possible role of unsterile injecting campaigns in Africa in increasing its virulence). In a section explaining the treatment of the illness, she places the blame for the excruciatingly slow rate at which effective, reasonably priced drugs have been made available to the poor squarely on the shoulders of certain governments, government leaders, and pharmaceutical companies. Through Greene’s book about a small woman with a big heart, readers will learn much about the human immunodeficiency virus and acquired immune deficiency syndrome and its effect on Ethiopian families. Similarly good: Mountains Beyond Mountains by Tracy Kidder.
Rating: 4 / 5
This book was fantastic. I finished it in a week. I had the audio book version, and whoever read it (the author?) had a great soothing voice and really conveyed the voices well. You will be warned, you will not want to put this book down! I don’t really have anything set up to read now that I’m done, and I think I might re-read it! About a woman in Ethiopia who takes in a few children here and there, which becomes the only orphanage which will take in HIV + children during this time, with all the stigmas that come along with it. She really does not plan on doing this, but children just fall into her lap and she receives donations from old friends. Later, Western adoption agencies approach her about sending her children to get new “Mommies” but this woman has become a mother to all the children at her home.
Truly a touching book. Makes me want to adopt children out of the country (I was planning to adopt anyway in the future, but no necessarily overseas children). Do not be set off by the chapters of statistics and non-narrative parts, because they are the truth and make what this woman is doing THAT much more wonderful. These parts also give the reader the TRUTH about HIV drugs and what the pharmaceutical companies are hiding and the whole truth about AIDS in Sub-Saharan Africa and just how many AIDS orphans there are. Please Please read. and if you are thinking about adopting, THIS IS A MUST READ, and make your husband or wife read it too, it will for sure change their mind.
Rating: 5 / 5
This account of the orphanage run by Haregewoin Teferra in Ethiopia is a fascinating, well-written book. The honest stories of Haragewoin as a person (her personal background, the story of her country) and the individual orphans that she comes to care for, are skillfully woven together with the story of the science of the AIDS epidemic, including a very eye opening account of big pharma’s role in this crisis. The last section of the book is devoted to the very, very touching (but again, honest) stories of a few American families who adopted Ethiopian children. Some of the phrases in the book will stay with me forever……”in a world without people, be a person.” I cannot recommend this book highly enough.
Rating: 5 / 5